If you've been trying to make bills vanish by throwing them away unopened, the first step is to own up to your mistakes. Clear off your kitchen table and get out all your loan statements, bills and budget - basically everything you can think of that relates to your finances. The loan/credit card payments and the bills for essentials - power, heat, water - will represent your base payments. If these already exceed your net income, you will either have to change your lifestyle (sell the house, get a small apartment, take on a second job) or file for bankruptcy. Now you need to make a plan. (For more on taking stock, see Getting Your Finances In Order.)